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Let me tell you the 3 big lies you’re telling yourself that keep you from your deepest fulfillment and success. Then I’ll tell you the truth so you can re-align with what you know is true, and have the success you’ve been waiting for!

Lie #1

If I change course, and embrace some bigger role now, I’ll be wasting all that time and money I’ve put into my education and career to this point! I’ll be revealed as a failure – how embarrassing!

Truth #1

All those schools, the life lessons, and the career paths you’ve had (and there have been quite a few, right?) were ALL research for what you are about to do next.
Take a deep breath into that. It was all RESEARCH. And you completed it! Yay!
It’s easy to get stuck in a research project. It’s easy to identify with one project instead of finishing it when you know it’s over. Whether that research project is a job you’re bored with, your first book that you’re teaching from by rote and not passion, a relationship past-due, a passion that’s become an addiction, or your daily routine, you KNOW when it’s over. But you don’t always end it.

Yet when you have moved on from a project that was past-due, didn’t it feel GREAT??!!!
Consider that your identity up and to this point has been a project. If it feels past-due, why not move on?

Afraid it means you’re a failure? Well, you tend to admire people who have the courage to change. So why not do it now, for yourself. In research terms, a “failure” is just results, and all results have value in the wider search for wisdom. Maybe a little humbling will make you a better person, – more accessible, kind, and compassionate. Why not embrace it?

Lie #2

I’ll lose the competition if I play a bigger role. I’m not experienced enough, good enough, special enough to be a Superstar. And I have to be a perfect SuperStar in order to shine.

Truth #2

No one wants a Perfect-Person Superstar.

Let’s be honest. Is it any fun learning from a Superstar – someone who is always perfect, excelling, and never failing?
Ew. A Superstar teacher. That sounds to me like they are

  1. misrepresenting themselves (cause no one’s perfect),
  2. probably arrogant and compassionless,
  3. and they are unable to teach me, an imperfect human, how to climb out of the hole I’m in – cause they’ve never been there.

NO. People want a helper/teacher/expert who has done the RESEARCH (see #1 above). Your people are waiting for YOU.

We don’t want a perfect person.
We want someone who is even still struggling a bit, showing that the struggle is worth it. We want someone who is just a bit farther ahead, so that the path is fresh in their minds. We want a collaborator who tosses out ideas, recognizes the signs, and authentically shares the victories with great joy.
Dude, that’s YOU. You are that collaborative leader.

  • Your screw-ups are your resume.
  • Your dedicated efforts are your qualifications.
  • Your awareness of your failures is what makes you a conscious leader.

Lie #3

I don’t know what my real gift is.

Truth #3

Yuh-huh yes you do. Or you can. If you listen for it like this…

Here are some reminders:

  • When you get quiet, you can FEEL your true gift moving in you.
  • Your friends tell you all the time what you’re so good at.
  • Your failures point to your biggest research, and your greatest wisdom.
  • You are here to help/teach/support people who were like you were, and who are going where you are.
  • You had a diverse background of experiences, and where they cross over, that’s your Gift.
  • The parts of your current job that make you feel like scratching your own eyes out – that’s NOT your gift, and you will never be happy doing that part.

The Truth is, my friend, that you DO KNOW (or at least you have a feeling/inkling) when you get quiet and centered.
Do then why isn’t it obvious to you?

  • Maybe it’s been a LONG time since you allowed yourself to get quiet and centered.
  • And it may be that you’ve been beaten down, or conditioned, or self-sabotaged for so long, that you are now really blocked from seeing it. But you can dig yourself out of that hole.
  • And if you want me to help you do that, it just happens to be MY deepest Gift to do so.

It’s my biggest gift and ability to see into you, and tell you your biggest gifts, and how to use them to create the money and lifestyle you’ve been dreaming about.

Because I will take you one step further. I will show you your soul’s gift, your life’s research and what it’s leading you to, and then I will show you how you can make your Gift your Career, while creating the lifestyle YOU want.

If you’d like some help kicking butt on these 3 Lies,
And if you’d like me to help you reveal your path that fits you in your bigness,
And if you’re curious about having me step you forward into your true purpose.
Click here to take my “Work With Mellissa” Quiz to see what the perfect way of working together might be for us!

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Once you understand your Gifts, I can help you channel your Genius, and eventually step into being a Genius Incarnate – a leader who is respected, trusted, and fully embodied in integrity.

The first step is knowing what your Gifts are!

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One Comment

  • angela says:

    OMG! I love you so much! I’ve had multiple degrees, lived in so many different places and now I live in Argentina with a grumpy old man who thinks he’s perfect and I’m one big F***up. I am in quarantine here and can’t leave and since we live off grid I can’t get to the internet very often. This was a very helpful and supportive reminder that I AM up to something and a negative person’s view of me is not mine. We’re all in some sort of strife and I remind myself each day right now, so I try not to take his opinions personally and I know he’s struggling and I’m an easy punching bag because there is no one else for him to deal with…. yet, perfection…. not ever possible! so thanks for this! you rock!!

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