Oh, boy. I want to talk about something that has a sharp edge to it for me when it comes to being a wise woman, and that is this idea that we fight to not age, that we fight our aging. And the part that I don’t like is the expectation that puffing our faces up with toxins in an injection is not only just a choice that we could make, but it’s expected that we’re taking care of ourselves by doing really strong, invasive things to our bodies.
That bugs me. Does it bug you? Another thing that bugs me is this idea that we have to fight aging with pharmaceuticals, with, pretending to be younger than we are? That bugs me. On the other hand, there are a few ways that we can, quote unquote, fight aging. That I am a complete support of. One of those is our devotion to keep moving in these bodies, our devotion to not disappear into the office chair, into the couch.
I think it’s so important for us to continue to be devoted to our bodies. In fact, I think it’s critical for us to up the game in our devotion to our bodies. I know that’s what menopause has been for me, is the demand from my body to pay more attention, to take better care of myself than ever. That includes moving my body.
That includes not drinking. That includes drinking more water. That includes tending my nutraceuticals, maybe my supplementation, whatever I need to do to support this body. As she stages not so much ages. In other words, say aging is a word I like to use for this process of my body maturing naturally, but with support into the sage archetype, into my wisdom.
Years. It’s so different than this drive, this pressure that we feel from society to act like we’re not our age. To act like we’re not sage. To act like we are the fertile maiden tripping through the flower fields, when in fact we are stepping into the shoes of the wise, powerful grandmother. Fighting. Aging, for me is not about pretending that I’m younger.
My form of fighting, aging is actually to embrace my sage. To embrace my wise woman. Years to embrace the natural, delicious maturing of my body, mind and spirit.
Instead of looking at stepping into my wise woman years as some kind of an aging where I slip mindlessly into a decrepit irrelevance and invisibility, I choose to see my own maturation as a process of sage stepping into my wisdom. Raw stepping away from my old patterns that kept me small. My old, younger patterns had me dry heaving to be the best and to be seen as the best and to be perfect in things.
And these are all folly. As we sage, we recognize more and more what is folly and what is foundation? What is this silly ideas of the ego, the perfectionism that can lead to paralysis? The egoic demands to fight some invisible fight to be better than all the other women.
Compared to the relaxation, the acceptance and the no bullshit nature as we sage.
I’ve created archetypes, a new quiz called The Wise Woman Calling quiz that is a an honoring of the different pathways forward that we have as middle aged women into this rebellious, juicy act of staging on our own unique paths. And I invite you to take it all. Put the quote. I’ll put the link here so you can take that new wise woman calling quiz, because.
This midlife point turning 50 entering menopause. This is not the end of the road. This is the beginning of your path. This is the beginning of your sage years. And yeah, part of making that transition is committing to fight aging. But only this form of aging. That is the collapse into society’s ideas as to how irrelevant, weak and outdated we are as elder women.
Screw that. That’s the form of aging. I am on board with fighting.
We stand on the threshold of an interesting new time. A time where a 59 year old woman is running for president. A time when the wise women are rising and saying no to many of the old boy networks value systems. We are standing rising. We are not collapsing. And we have pads forward that are unique. So check out the Wise Woman Calling quiz to find out which path is yours.
Now that you’re grown up enough to walk it.
Mellissa was a Stanford-educated business lawyer until her intuitive abilities awakened in the year 2000 with the birth of her daughter. Now she bridges the worlds of business strategy and intuitive intelligence. Creative designers, Fortune 500 executives, and thought leaders hire her to teach them how to Channel their Genius – to create on demand, to stay in their flow state, and to create lucrative businesses that follow their souls’ calling.
One Response
Thank you! This is my message, too. But after instances I perceived as disrespectful, I needed to hear it today. I have stepped into my wise woman, tell it like it is, bad-ass self and worse than receiving a negative response, have been ignored. Before reading your post, I was thinking it might be time to quit. But no, no response does not mean I should stop speaking out. It means what I said truly landed and left them speechless!