When I graduated from Stanford in 1991, I had no clue what I wanted to be “when I grew up.” I felt pressured to choose something important, fulfilling, lucrative, and deeply impactful. Immediately.
After all, I’d just cost my parents over one hundred thousand dollars. I had lots of people looking to me to do something really great and important and impressive. Again. But honestly, I really just wanted a sign from the sky to tell me what I was supposed to do. I longed to understand how I was special, how I could be of service in the world.
I know I’m not the only person who has agonized about what my purpose was supposed to be. Hey, many of us just flow into whatever is expected of us. My dad was a judge. So I started working in law offices. Eventually I went to law school. Honestly it just felt like the path of least resistance. Easy. Expected.
My deep gifts of intuition, of holding space for groups, of storytelling and teaching, of leading people through spiritual experiences… I considered these gifts relevant only as “hobbies” at the time. I didn’t have a big push to value these softer gifts of mine. So it took me another ten years to even consider putting my focus there.
I’m happy about that now, because the experience of studying and practicing law, even for a brief time, trained me to be what I am now – a mix of all those softer transformative gifts, and my rational strategic mind that understands business with the sharpness of a lawyer.
Let’s compare my story with the experience of a wisdom culture that honors the life passages with ritual and ceremony. When we all lived close to each other, and close to the earth, we did things differently. We needed each person in the clan to do work that supported the whole.
So as someone reached an age of adulthood, we honored the passage with ceremony. We honored this young person, their gifts, their uniqueness, their purpose.
In modern times, our college grads are being plopped out, clueless and overwhelmed, into a complicated marketplace. But in a closer-knit community, they would not be abandoned in trying to “figure themselves out.” Their skills, gifts, and proclivities would be noticed and reflected. They would be guided towards the direction of their intrinsic abilities. Perhaps they would try an apprenticeship. In many wisdom traditions, they might be offered a new name, to reflect their gifts.
This is the Sixth Life Passage as I’ve mapped them. It’s where you understand your intrinsic gifts, and therefore your purpose. You have a good clear picture of what makes you different, unique, and special. You form a new adult identity, one that becomes more oriented towards how you can contribute in your community.
Many of us missed this passage in our lives. Did you? Maybe you’ve even been floundering for decades, feeling invisible, unappreciated. Perhaps you continue to wonder why the heck you’re even here. This can cause a feeling of depression, hopelessness, and a generalized feeling that you might as well opt out of participation in this whole game. This is a sign that you’re longing to know your REAL purpose.
It is THIS passage – the Purpose Initiation – that we address in much of my work. That’s because I’ve created a simple path for learning what exactly your unique gifts are, and how to apply them in the world! It starts with my free Soul Gift Quiz that shows you your soul gift type in just 2 minutes, so you can work with your gifts and not against them. And then, there’s my Genius Revealer mini-course which uses a series of fun quizzes to help you identify your best fit Right Role in the world, and even your Life Purpose! From there, some folks decide to focus their life and business around their deepest gifts. For them, I have the Channel Your Genius Business Academy and the Wisdom Mentorship! Deeper and deeper support and guidance, with direct coaching from me, clearings and private sessions, to make sure you not only KNOW your purpose, but that you can LIVE your purpose and make money doing so!
Mellissa was a Stanford-educated business lawyer until her intuitive abilities awakened in the year 2000 with the birth of her daughter. Now she bridges the worlds of business strategy and intuitive intelligence. Creative designers, Fortune 500 executives, and thought leaders hire her to teach them how to Channel their Genius – to create on demand, to stay in their flow state, and to create lucrative businesses that follow their souls’ calling.